During my time of truth purging, I was told I needed mental help. True. I was told I need professional help. True. But the help I needed was not another human to talk to about a subject that I had gotten NO understanding about, but a loving Creator who gets all of me. So I ventured out on my own. I asked God to heal me, and show me how so I could help others. I am not sure I am done, but I have gained some relief in my venture to the dark side and the truth about what the world says and what I felt.
I accept that being adopted made me feel like shit at times. Especially when folks would tell me to forget my Birth Mom. Especially when they told me my Birth Mother did not want me. Who wants to hear that their Mother did not want them. But that was the truth, and God showed me why? Because the woman who wanted me was my Mother. Now folks that is a game changer. And if adoptees could embrace this, it would change their relationships with their Adopted parents. How? Well, how do you feel when someone thinks bad things about you? Does it make you want to be with them? Does it make you want to hold them? But this is happening everyday in many adoptees lives. Now I am not saying that it is wrong, it just is. I can see why?
- No one talks about it.
- Adoptive parents are scared of being rejected or the child wanting the Birth Mother.
- Parents who adopted were not prepared properly
- The world says cruel things about Birth Mothers
- Adoptees believe that if they speak and ask questions that their parents that showed up will reject them too. (this one is big)
- The world says cruel things to adoptees
- We kind of hide from things we don’t understand
- Many of our belief are formed when we are very young, birth-10
- Many of us are running information that is not complete.
- Birth Mothers are not prepared.
- We have unrealistic expectations on both sides of what it should be like.
These are a few. I am sure there are more and I will post more. Feel free to help me with your perceptions. For it is all of our truths that set us free. And as we share our views, we make it clearer for folks to understand.
Sometimes you got to risk looking crazy to become sane. And what I have garnered speaking my crazy truth is an understanding. And I have stood up for myself, which is key to getting yourself onto higher solid ground.