Is to know the system intricately.
Adoption wasn’t build in a day. It can be demolished in one day though. And that one day is coming for Adoption as we now know it.
This system is rigged and the children who grow up adopted are not benefited by this system.
The neglect, denial, abuse, violence, violation of human rights, stripped of our right to have what is by human rights law, ours, with no recourse of action even made available to us? The misrepresentation of a nation of humans, not just children? I’m grown now and am an adult still working to get what is and has always been mine in the eyes of God and backed by universal laws of genetics and DNA. Coding another woman’s child and denied that woman who is my own Mama.
These things out weigh any benefits and in fact strip all away to show no ones benefiting and that it affects us all.
PTSD. Which must be treated and cost money to do. We pay dearly.
Mental disturbances that are labeled now disabilities for Adoptees, that is if their parents even see them and have their child seen by a dr? That knows anything? and yet we still keep going and proclaim Adoption as our hero?
Anxiety and panic attacks as a norm and undetected and neglected the help we need to cope with our fight or flight response to separation for our Mothers. It’s real folks.
OCD. Obsessive disorders. Patterns scrambled. Wanting order where Order has been disturbed.
Order would be we stay with our family unit.
As much as I have tried and as much as other adoptees try. Our families are always at the top of our list. Whether secretly or publicly. We abide.
It’s the system that rigged and we have been linked again by the devil and the dollar. And it’s humanity that’s paying the price in the end with trillions of traumatized people grown or children that now roam the planet separated from home.
How is Adoption helping again? I helped myself. Adoption just made me have to work harder to do what I was born to do. Which is to love my Mama with all of my heart and be a good citizen of this planet. To love your Mama is to love God. God used her to make you.
To love God is to love your own Mama. If you can’t even love her then who can ya really love? Yeah. I thought so.
This lovers triangle was never my cup of tea. Made me feel cheap and low being placed in a position of disloyalty when it’s my own Mama they wanted me to just forget? Huh!