Many struggle and yet do have feelings. If we did not have feelings then we would not write about it now would we. But it’s like an amputee, we have love for a phantom.
She is real. And in many cases alive. But our love was cut off and has no place to send it. Which does made one sad or disappointed. Discomforted. Disempowered to do anything about it. Trapped. Restricted.
Love is a natural state of a child even when grow. Separation does not stop the love, just moves it’s destination and arrival. Love for Mama is always there and our Adopters feel it and know it. Which is kind of there problem smeared into ours. So we help them. Understand how it works.