Aerial K. ~25~ Adoptee ~Advocate of Adoptee voices and the Adoption Triad.~
Plot Twist: An Adoptee’s Perspective
I learned that my birth mother didn’t abandon me, my twin brother, my older sister or her niece and nephews her sister P. did. My late Aunt P. ( I didn’t get a chance to meet her) left all five of us with a lady that was a drunk. The story goes my birth mother came into social services raising all types of hell to get us back. However she was deemed unfit because of a variety of things.
When I was younger… before I found out I was adopted I always thought that my adoption was a mistake. Like “ This was not suppose to happen” or “ Something must have went terribly wrong.” This new piece of information kind of stopped me in my tracks. I never blamed my birth mother for anything but I the feelings of loss, grief and abandonment are heavy burdens that I carry. I immediately felt like I need to take a step back from what I “ thought I knew” and “ what I do know” and really focus on getting the story straight and finding out who my biological father actually is.
People ask me : “ Why do you want to know? That is in the past.” I give these people the benefit of the doubt, They don’t know. They wouldn’t understand and they probably would not even try. Do you want to know why I want to know? Because I deserve to know! I have the right to know! I am surrounded by biological family so somebody is gonna tell me something!!